from a random woman's magazine:

"Any of us would hate to have our future happiness placed upon another person. It relinquishes the power to make ourselves happy, rendering us quite useless. To be needy leaves us women in a highly volatile situation. Even sadder, a male scrape goat at whom we can point fingers and exclaim, 'I'm not happy because he's not!' In this day and age, we would like to think ourselves more self-sufficient than our 60s Doris Day apron touting counterparts.' (sic.)